Twit du Jour

Ok.
Yes – it is annoying at times, but I get it.
Even as a single person – I.GET.IT.
I really really do.
Becoming a parent is life altering.
There is no such thing as ‘personal/selfish’ time (and I’m not saying selfish is a bad thing here)
Life as you knew it – is no longer about you, for you and most definitely doesn’t revolve around you.
It becomes all consuming: about the child/children.

While I am one of those women who is content either way to a) perhaps have a child or b) not to have child… I was left bouche-bée, reeling in the incedulousness of what I saw and read.  It made me want to bitch-slap the blatantly ignorant bee-othch that wrote in this DEAR ANN type letter… and kudos to the replying Washington Post journalist, Carolyn Hax for her most appropriate response.

I don’t care what they say – ignorance is not bliss. Point in case:

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About ~KC~
Strong but open minded, opinionated, sensitive, vivacious, outgoing, caring, compassionate, spiritual, habitual, mutable, at times controversial, sometimes superficial, perceived as egotistical and knowledgeable but mostly loveable... all things Sagittarius.

7 Responses to Twit du Jour

  1. Linda says:

    ha ha ha. hard to believe that letter is real. but then, I’ve known a friend or two with a husband almost as clueless, and they sleep in the same house!

    since joining the parent ‘hood, I’d describe the job this way: the most tedious and the most intellectually challenging thing I’ve ever done, and both at exactly the same time. Like trying to plan something elaborate in your head (a formal wedding, or design a car, or calculus perhaps), while attending the duties of a repetitive assembly line all day.

    But now that neither of my boys are babies anymore, it does change and I get time to yourself.

    cheers

    • ~KC~ says:

      Scary but I have some very superficial and artificial acquaintances who shared this questioners thoughts. But I do have to say.. I love how you described being a parent:

      since joining the parent ‘hood, I’d describe the job this way: the most tedious and the most intellectually challenging thing I’ve ever done, and both at exactly the same time. Like trying to plan something elaborate in your head (a formal wedding, or design a car, or calculus perhaps), while attending the duties of a repetitive assembly line all day.

      Hope you don’t mind but I do plan on using that one day!

  2. A most appropriate response, yes. Of course if you’re a single-dad, it’s a little more complicated because you can forget ALL about the sympathy angle. I still remember the first July 4th after I became a SD, Spider Man II had just come out, I had the inspired idea of rolling just him & me out the door at 3 a.m. to watch hot air balloons take off and then come back to watch fireworks. Hey dude…fireworks start at 9:30. That’s twenty hours on your feet, total, which has a different connotation when you’re sunburned and 39 than when you’re fresh & sheltered & looking for adventure & eight. Someone forgot to do the math.

    Suffice it to say that if the author of that letter was my friend, when I finally got the rug-rat tucked into bed that night this person would NOT be getting a call from me to find out what’s-up. Yes, I’ve learned to plan better since then. No, the “Whassup?” isn’t coming back. Parenthood does do that, whether you’re married or single.

    • ~KC~ says:

      Live and learn, right? Kids don’t come with handbooks, as much as we wished they did!

      Parenthood does do that, whether you’re married or single
      True.
      Regardless of your couple or single ‘hood – parenting is a life long responsibility that changes everything.

  3. t i m says:

    I’ve got friends with & also without kids. Once you’ve got a new person’s life to look after, one’s priority changes if they want to be a good parent. The child comes first and everything else is secondary & rightly so especially in the early years.

    How the person who wrote the letter fails to comprehend that is unfathomable, but I’ve come across people way more inconsiderate and self-centred than her. Bravo to the Agony Aunt for giving a candid reply.

  4. Being in the no-kids-camp: I don’t get the letter. Even I can understand the demands that kids place on the time of their parents.

    Methinks the writer just doesn’t understand – and likely never will – that it isn’t all about her anymore.

    Which – let’s hope SHE never has kids. Else I pity the kids.

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